You are fierce!

You are fearfully and wonderfully made! (Ps. 139:14)

You are an endless, fascinating repository of all the secrets of a “living” God; intricate and pulsing with His life and energy! 

You are a spellbinding world of cells, systems, and chemistry that bears the impression of this unseen reality…you were made in the “image and likeness” of GOD ALMIGHTY!! 

He made you to “rule over” the fish of the sea, over the birds of the sky, over the cattle, over “all” the earth, and over every creeping thing that ‘creeps’ on the earth.”

You are to rule over ‘yourself’; your own spirit, your flesh, your own desires…but not to rule over someone else! 

So now let’s act like it!! 

“So God created human beings in his own image. In the image of God he created them; male and female, he created “them.” Gen. 1:27

What matters most…

“Until you are driven by ‘what matters most’ in life, you  will never find your destiny! Instead, you will always be trying to prove your views to others; and when your view becomes more important than your destiny, you will compromise your future…just to show people around you that you are just as good as they are.” (TDJakes)

We must celebrate and be happy for the people who matters most in our lives! Don’t get so stand-offish with them, because by the time you become wise enough to recognize the people who you should have celebrated…they will all be gone! 

When people get so used to individuals, until they refuse to appreciate them and continue to celebrate someone else who has done so much less for them…that’s when they become…what is known as….”haters! ”

There will be so much noise inside them that they will not be sensitive enough to recognize the real people who they should be celebrating!  

Eventually, they will compromise how far they, themselves could have gone in their own life because of that same “noise” in their spirit…which will also stop them from hearing from their instinct, as to what they should be doing and who it is that matters most their  life!

Noise screams. Instincts whispers! 

Instinct is that small voice that points one to their next move. In order to figure out what matters most in this life…then you will have to find your instinct!

So, if you ever find yourself sitting in a room, or in a rocking chair on the porch, asking yourself whatever happen to your “neat little “designed” life? Or what happened to your happiness? Or why you are living in a hog pen?! …Remember, there will be no true happiness, until you figure out what matters most in this life!

You can always make a change…when you know, “what matters…most!” 

Heart Issues 

The statue of a man is not based on his outward appearance but his “innards.”

But the Lord said to Samuel, “Do not look at his appearance or at his physical stature, because I have refused him. For the Lord does not see as man sees; for man looks at the outward appearance, but the Lord looks at the heart.”  Nor does the Lord judge according to the looks of a person, or sees as man sees!

We oftentimes…and in most situations, look at what people have on, what they drive, our perception of how wealthy they are, where they work and, now more than ever…where they attend the “church club thing!”

  Precious, we not looking at your stuff, but your heart!


But the Almighty God will judge each and everyone of us, based on the attitude of our individual’ “heart!” 


“it takes a village” moment….

For over 10 years, as a sworn in, advocate for children through the  North Carolina Administrative Office of the Courts, it is still baffling to see young adults come to adulthood, and be so much disconnected from this subject!

Regardless of all the hype surrounding “having this bundle of joy…” these stats are still, the reality.

Real grown-up’, working, 2-parent individuals are “still” struggling with this one! Why think it will be better for the young, uninformed mothers who do not consider all the ramifications of bringing to this earth, a new life ?!

You older women…are to still continue to teach the younger!(although I must admit, you can’t teach what you don’t know)

You set your own path in life by the choices you make. We did! Make better choices or it can get so very hard!!

You can become disillusioned, let down, left alone, and “left for dead!” Make better choices now, to insure a better future…parenthood can wait a bit!!

Find out who you are first, before you try to raise another 😫. If this is not handled right…this “will” become an ‘abuse and neglect’ situation! Do not become so ‘needy’ that you only think of what you want, and how you need to feel…and make the choice based on the future of the child!!! It’s just not only about you!

Healing Rain Women’s Resource Center-advocating for-the ‘best interest’ of all children!

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Your life-direction model

The bible gives us a clear choice between two life directions: because life often forks off in two directions!

You must take the higher road, even though it looks more difficult, treacherous and gets very steep in places!

The climb takes its toll on your energy, and it gets very lonely, slippery and your enemy will blow ice on the narrow passages.  Despite its dangers, the higher road is bound for the highest point of your mountain~ and you will make it!

There are not many people on this road, but there are more on it, than you can imagine….some probably because of your example.
God has a lifeline around you. When you are tempted to falter in your faith, or to turn back from following Christ, keep focused on what He has done for you and what He offers in the future, then…keep climbing!

Persevere in your Christian faith and conduct when facing persecution, pressure and suffering! They will build your character, your patience and endurance!

Cast not away your confidence which has great recompense of reward…For you have need of patience that after you have done the will of God…you  might receive…The Promise!” (life, and abundant Life) Heb. 10:35

Kim Burrell backtracking ? Nahhhh!

There was a question put out in the atmosphere from the DL Hughley radio show about Kim Burrell’s controversial statement, asking for people’s thoughts and opinions.

PEOPLE….With all your getting…get understanding! “Solid food,” is for the mature, who because of practice have their senses trained to discern what is both good and evil!

We all know what the bible’s stance on this subject has been…and is! Why do people insist on trying to change it because of their own lack of understanding and their own vain, human reasoning?

If people are standing firm on their own personal position and refute anyone who attempts to challenge it…why should the Church change its beliefs to accommodate someone else’s viewpoint, simply because of the relevancy of the year?! What has the year got to do with it anyway? There is nothing new under the sun! 

Many people, either have engaged in this sin, or have family members that have engaged and are engaging, yet we still love them! (let’s hope).

We do not have to backtrack nor explain away what the scriptures says about any subject! It’s pretty clear and says exactly what it means, for whatever the purposes. Who, might I ask…thinks they are so powerful as to ‘check’ the Almighty? 

This is not a wrestling match against a human opponent. We are wrestling with rulers, authorities, the powers who govern this world of darkness, and spiritual forces that control evil in heavenly warfare.

Believers…don’t be shaken or apologetic! It’s not “your” opinion…but God’s declaration! He needs “No” defending and His Glory will always have your back! He is well able…no worries!

So don’t get involve in meaningless dialogues that mock and call evil…good; and good…evil! Don’t you know the word? It is “forever” settled and will “never”… change! It is from eternity to eternity!

The carnal mind will always be hostile to ‘anything’ and ‘anyone’ that is called “God!” I’m talking about the real, “living” God, not a fictitious one!!

When the smoke clears it’s still going to be “thus says the Lord!” Attacking His “called out” ones will never change an unchanging God! He says what He means… and means what He says!! He got this!!

We “all” have the responsibility of loving (agape’) one another, of forgiving one another, and of displaying human decency!

Let’s all find something we “can” agree on like goodness, love, and human kindness! That’ll work! Or is this now obsolete?

Hillary, it was worth the fight!

“Fighting for what’s right… is worth it!”-Hillary Clinton
…That girl is on fire! She worked that effort right up to the bitter end, and I am so proud of her!

I love a fighter, no matter what! My heart is so proud! You made an impact that many do not even know!! Now rest in the assurance that you fought a good fight!

Go Hillary!

Hillary, in the words of William Faulkner, “they ‘kilt’ us but they ain’t ‘whupped’ Continue reading Hillary, it was worth the fight!

Life in a Valley

walking-in-valley “Living in a valley” is not your permanent home!  

A valley is considered a low place between two hills. However, the valley is a place that you’re suppose to just pass thru, not live there!

Some types of valleys are crisis, devastation,  trauma, life experiences or some type of transition! Just because a crisis seem to hit your home, your body, your relationship or your job, this is still not where you are supposed to live!! It’s a temporary position.

Your day of departure has already been set by God! So don’t become bitter and discouraged and let them take root. What was meant for harm, God will, not only bring you out… but pay you back for the all the unfair things done to you. You must hang on to the promises  from God: that you are headed for divine overflow! Don’t forget, you were not created for the valley. Weeping may endure for a night (not forever), but joy comes this morning.

Don’t get stuck in the valley thinking you have seen your best days! Pass thru the valley…God will bring you out with great substance and better off than you were before! You must pass through! So don’t set up for permanency. It’s only for a moment!


“three years ago, we decided to downsize our home of 4 years. Our 5,000 sf home, had became just too much to handle! My last child was off the college, and I felt I was pulled in so many directions! For the first time in a while, I was an “empty-nester!”

 Between working full-time, chairing the monthly meeting of my nonprofit organization and managing the center, coming home cooking (usually complete meals daily), cleaning that large home, and working on my garden and landscape…I was stressed out!

 My home also housed my private (1,200 sf) office space, so I would constantly be working on something for the nonprofit or counseling individuals via phone or internet! In addition to that, it took too much to travel for entertainment. We were located at the end of the county-quite a distance from shopping and entertainment, (those that I preferred anyway.)

I decided to not only downsize my home, but to secure a separate, commercial office space away from the home, and not mix my work life with my personal life at home. 

I chose a newly built 2,000 sf townhouse. I had it upgraded in order to make it my own space…inside out. (kitchen, bath, landscaping).

Later, that year and at the last moment, my college student decided that she wanted to remain at home, in order to save some money in order for her to live on her own during her Junior year at college. Nevertheless, that town-home seemed to get filled very quickly!

After a couple of years there, I began to sense that it was time to move on from there. I began to look to secure a little larger place, (I was appalled at how long it seemed to take to find the right one!) The real estate market had ‘gotten better,’ by this time and I just couldn’t understand why I could not find the right space!

I began to experience some of these  “valley” symptoms! I simply did not anticipate that it would take as long as it did!

Disappointment, discouragement, weariness and; at times frustration…seemed to overwhelmed me. I couldn’t help remembering in times past, of being able to expedite any matter…quickly and expeditiously!!

I could not understand why this time, it was taking so long! Whenever I wanted to move,  it was just a matter of contacting our real estate agent and the move was on! However, this time, it seemed as if everything was either ridiculously overpriced or was not worth the value that I wanted.

After months of seeking the Lord, I began to realize God had another plan and time frame. He made me to know that no matter what, the valley was not where I was meant to reside and His word did work! He promised to give me the desires of my heart!! I had to be steadfast, unmovable and keep believing and moving forward. It did seem though, that I was in a valley…when I was used to living on the mountain!

Yes, I was frustrated to no end! Remember now, I have this testimony that I always got what I wanted. (as long as I abided in Him). This time however, the promise seemed to take on a life of itself! However, I kept standing and believing that God would yet come thru.

I made up my mind that I would not just settle for the town-home because things looked as if I couldn’t find my dream, that God had given me the authority to pursue any desire. I knew that I was only suppose to stay here while God worked out His plan. I was just passing through on my way to my promise!

It wasn’t necessarily a valley, but it certainly felt like a “living in the valley” experience. I knew that the decision to downsize was determined by God regardless of what anybody thought. It was the height of the real estate crisis where everything seemed topsy-turvey, yet God said…”move, enlarge your stakes. There is a better place prepared for you!”

Today I have, just what I was standing firm for…a 3,000 sf, 4 bdr, 3.5 bath, custom kitchen & baths, third floor finished bedroom and bath, walk up additional storage, a first floor, private home office, a detached 2-car garage, screened porch, covered front porch, a court-yard which houses my gazebo and grill, and a covered walk-way from the garage, through the screen porch;  and best of all… just 20 minute from my favorite mall, shops and office!!! Need I say more ?

So pack up your stuff, pull up your stakes and move forward! You’re not a citizen of “the valley.”                  

parable of…growth, readiness and perception


It’s fascinating to read the parables of Jesus because there always seems to be something new that comes from it. That’s how I feel about the parable of the sower.

The parable is simple: the sower (Christ) scatters his seed generously and it ends up on four different types of terrain.

Some land on 1) the side of the road, 2) some on rocks, 3) others in thorny soil and; 4) some in good soil. The first three groups of seed die and the seed planted in the good soil flourishes.

Jesus shares that the sower scattered seed (the Word of God) on all types of ground. It didn’t say that he was meticulously planting the seeds in designated ‘good soil’ areas – it says he was scattering the seed everywhere.

Doesn’t that seem wasteful though? I mean, if I were planting a field, why would I throw seed on rocks, thorns, and the side of the road? Wouldn’t you want to be careful and put the seed in the good soil from the beginning?

The meaning of the parable of the sower is twofold:

  1. To show that Christ came to share the Word of God with everyone. We don’t serve a stingy God who picks and chooses who is good enough to hear the word. He graciously sows into everyone who is willing to accept his word.
  2. To show us how the different soils in our life can keep us from sharing God’s truth with others.

Then Jesus said to them, “Don’t you understand this parable? How then will you understand any parable? The “sower” sows the word. Some people are like seed along the path, where the word is sown. As soon as they hear it, Satan comes and takes away the word that was sown in them.

Others, like seed sown on rocky places, hear the word and at once receive it with joy.  But since they have no root, they last only a short time. When trouble or persecution comes because of the word, they quickly fall away.

Still others, like seed sown among thorns, hear the word; but the worries of this life, the “deceitfulness of riches” and the desires for other things come in and choke the word, making it unfruitful.

Others, like seed sown on good soil, hear the word, accept it, and produce a crop—some thirty, some sixty, some a hundred times what was sown.”


‘Some Fell Along the Path’

This is the ‘in one ear, out the other’ crowd. Picture a middle-eastern road hardened by years of travel by men and animals. What happens to the seed when it falls here? It sits out in the open for the birds to come and get it. If we don’t take God’s Word seriously, that’s the soil we’re representing.

‘Some Fell On Rock’

These people know the Word of God, but when they’re tested, they collapse. They have no root. They’re not planted deep enough in the soil, so God’s Word hasn’t truly become their foundation. It’s a superficial faith that springs up when times are good. But when the heat comes, just like the sun on a hot day, the small seedling that shot up on the rock will wither and die for lack of soil and water.

‘Other Seed Fell Among Thorns’

They hear the word, but do nothing with it. They know the word, but don’t truly accept it. They teach it, but don’t practice it. If we’re not earnestly seeking the Word of God, it leads to indifference about devotions and relationship with him.

The message to the “Sower”, from Jesus:

“The secret of the kingdom of God has been given to you. Whoever has will be given more, and they will have an abundance. Whoever does not have, even what they have will be taken from them…blessed are your eyes because they see, and your ears because they hear. For truly I tell you, many prophets and righteous people longed to see what you see but did not see it, and to hear what you hear but did not hear it.

Those who would receive instruction from Christ must know and consider what a privilege it is to be instructed by him, what a distinguishing privilege to be led into the light, such a light, when others are left in darkness, such a darkness.

The heart of man is as soil to the seed of God’s word; it is capable of receiving it, and bringing forth the fruits of it; but, unless that seed be sown in it, it will bring forth nothing valuable. To what purpose have we the seed in the scripture, if it be not sown? And to what purpose have we the soil in our own hearts, if it be not sown with that seed?

The success of the seeding is very much according to the nature and temper of the soil, and as that is, (or is not), disposed to receive the seed. The devil is a subtle and spiteful enemy, that makes it his business to hinder our profiting by the word of God. He takes the word out of the hearts of careless hearers, lest they should believe and be saved. Therefore the devil does all he can to keep us from believing, to make us not believe the word when we read and hear it; or, if we heed it for the present, to make us forget it again, and let it slip, or if we remember it, to create prejudices in our minds against it, or divert our minds from it to something else.

Where the word of God is heard carelessly there is commonly a contempt put upon it too. They that willfully shut their ears against the word, do in effect trample it under their feet; they despise the commandment of the Lord.

Those on whom the word makes some impressions, but they are not deep and durable ones, will show their hypocrisy in a time of trial; as the seed sown upon the rock, where it gains no root. These believe a little while; their profession promises something, but in time of temptation they fall away from their good beginnings. Whether the temptation arises from the smiles or the frowns, of the world, they are easily overcome by it.

The pleasures of this life are as dangerous and mischievous thorns that choke the good seed of the word. It is not enough that the fruit be brought forth, but it must be brought to perfection, it must be fully ripened. If not, it is as if there was no fruit at all brought forth.

The good ground, which brings forth good fruit, is an honest and good heart, well disposed to receive instruction and commandment; a heart free from sinful pollutions, and firmly fixed for God and duty, an upright heart, a tender heart, and a heart that trembles at the word, is an honest and good heart, which, having heard the word, understands it.

Where the word is well kept there is fruit brought forth with patience. There must be both bearing patience and waiting patience; patience to suffer the tribulation and persecution which may arise because of the word; patience to continue to the end in well-doing.

In consideration of all this, we ought to take heed how we hear; take heed of those things that will hinder our profiting by the word we hear, watch over our hearts in hearing, and take heed lest they betray us; take heed lest we hear carelessly and slightly, lest, upon any account, we entertain prejudice against the word we hear; and take heed to the frame of our spirits after we have heard the word, lest we lose what we have gained.

Those that have received the gift of sowing the Word, are Ministers that have the dispensing of the gospel committed to them; people that have profited by the word and are thereby qualified to profit others. They are lighted candles and must in solemn authoritative preaching, diffuse their light; for a candle must not be covered with a vessel nor put under a bed, Ministers and Christians are to be lights in the world, holding forth the word of life!

“I have planted. Apollos watered, but God Himself…will give…increase”


gifts from hardships

Pain touches everyone. No one is exempt from hardship. On every level of life, there are hardships! So be very careful what you ask for!

We don’t ask for hardships, and of course, are usually not welcomed. They’re not something one would plan into their life’s development, but yet, hardships are among our most powerful teachers!

Many of us underestimate what it takes to get to that next level in life! Oftentimes we don’t examine the cup of suffering that happens on the future destinyway to this next level and what it all entails. We don’t inspect the “cross” that we will have to bear! These cups and crosses will be “the path,” and will be how you will get to your next level!

So many people want the promotion without the problems, riches without work, fame without humility! That won’t happen!! So before you ask…you better examine the cup!

For example: If you want your own home, there may come a time that you will experience some hardships! You will have to do your own maintenance and all the issues you didn’t have to deal with before!

Sometimes on this journey to the next level, life will tease, taunt and ridicule you! You help others with their issues and can’t seem to fix your own!! You help others with their marriage and yours fail!  You bend over backwards for your boss and someone else gets the promotion! WOW!

If you are going through a period where life has taunted you, just know that this is the nature of the beast! You will get mocked sometimes, you will feel beat-up sometimes. You will certainly get talked about and judged sometimes!! But if you never experience bullying or being mistreated, then you will never respect the “gifts gained,” or experience the steps of how to win, and neither will you discover who ‘you’ really are! Hardship is painful. But if you can learn from it, you gain something back!

Your story is not over!  And after you have suffered a little while, the God of all grace, who has called you to his eternal glory in Christ, will himself restore, confirm, strengthen, and establish you. 1 Pet.5:10


Gifts gained from Hardships: (Compliments of Center for Creative Leadership)

Gift #1
Greater insight or clarity about what makes you tick .
Hardships force you to come face-to-face with who you are. The experience of hardship often reveals limitations, patterns, beliefs and skills you didn’t see or appreciate before. This shift in self-awareness is powerful. You have the chance to make new choices based on what matters; how you act, think and feel; and what you can and cannot do.

Gift #2
Increased compassion for others. A significant dose of humility usually comes with hardship. It is never easy to confront the truth that you are not perfect, invincible or immune to tough and terrible things. But going through hardship can open your eyes to the hardships of others. Receiving support and help from others may motivate you to give support and help more readily. Your sense of compassion can grow.

Gift #3.
 Surviving hardship and willing yourself to move forward builds added strength to tackle new challenges and face future failures. Resilience allows you to be flexible and durable as things change. It teaches you to be open to learning and agile as you figure out what to do next.